Crossed Signals Training
Neurodiverse Therapist
Trainings
Clinical training for therapists who keep running into cycles they can’t quite crack.
Training for therapists, clinical trainees, group practices, and professional organisations working with ADHD and neurodiverse couples.
The problem
The Couple in Front of You Isn’t Responding the Way the Model Predicts
You know EFT. Or maybe you work from another attachment-based model. Either way, you’re good at what you do and something about this couple isn’t clicking.
The withdrawer is not just withdrawing. They’re flooding internally while looking completely flat on the outside. The pursuer is not just protesting they’re caught in a shame spiral about their own reactivity that makes it almost impossible for them to soften. The homework you assigned last week? Forgotten. Not because they don’t care, but because executive function doesn’t bend to good intentions.
You’re working with a couple where ADHD is in the room and if you don’t know how to account for it, even the best clinical model will stall.
That’s what this training addresses.
This where ADHD and attachment actually meet
What You’ll Learn
Crossed Signals Neurodiverse Therapist Trainings are grounded in the clinical framework from Crossed Signals: Healing the ADHD and Attachment Cycle Through EFT. The training is designed for licensed therapists and clinical trainees who work with couples and want to understand how ADHD neurobiology reshapes attachment dynamics — and how to adapt their clinical approach accordingly.
This is not a surface-level ADHD overview. And it’s not a generic EFT refresher with a neurodiversity label. This training sits at the intersection of both, where the real clinical complexity lives.
The ADHD-Attachment Cycle.
How ADHD traits — emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitive dysphoria, time blindness, working memory deficits — interact with attachment needs to create cycles that are faster, more intense, and more confusing than what standard attachment models prepare you for. You’ll learn to identify these patterns in session and name them in ways that reduce shame for both partners.
Adapting EFT for Neurodiverse Couples.
Specific modifications to the EFT model that account for ADHD neurobiology — including how to pace sessions differently, how to work with emotional flooding when it’s neurological rather than purely attachment-driven, and how to support enactments when one or both partners have working memory challenges.
The Non-ADHD Partner’s Experience.
The loneliness, the over-functioning, the grief — and the ways therapists inadvertently pathologize the non-ADHD partner’s protest or dismiss their exhaustion. You’ll develop clinical skills for holding both partners’ realities without taking sides.
Assessment and Case Conceptualization.
How to assess for ADHD’s role in the couple’s cycle even when ADHD isn’t the presenting problem. Many couples come in for “communication issues” or “feeling disconnected” without realizing that undiagnosed or under-treated ADHD is a driving force in their distress.
Common Clinical Pitfalls.
Where therapists get stuck with neurodiverse couples — including over-focusing on ADHD psychoeducation at the expense of emotional processing, accidentally reinforcing the non-ADHD partner’s caretaker role, or misreading ADHD-driven emotional dysregulation as personality pathology.
ABOUT the intensives
Training Formats Available
I offer Crossed Signals trainings in several formats depending on what your practice, organization, or training program needs:
Live Workshops and Seminars.
Half-day and full-day trainings for group practices, training institutes, and professional organizations. These include didactic teaching, clinical demonstration, case consultation, and Q&A.
Conference Presentations and Keynotes.
Invited talks for state and national conferences, CE events, and professional organizations such as CAMFT, AAMFT, and ICEEFT-affiliated groups.
Ongoing Consultation Groups.
Small-group clinical consultation for therapists who want ongoing support applying the Crossed Signals framework with their own caseloads. These groups meet regularly and include case presentation, live feedback, and skill development.
Custom Training for Group Practices.
If your practice sees neurodiverse couples and you want your clinical team trained in this framework, I can design a training program tailored to your team’s experience level and clinical focus.
All trainings may be eligible for continuing education credits depending on the hosting organization. If CE accreditation is needed, I can work with your organization’s CE provider to meet requirements.
Private. Focused.
Led directly by Grazel.
What other therapists are saying
- I really enjoyed your presentation. I didn’t know about RSD prior to this! I appreciate the practical applications of what I learned. I have a couple client that will benefit from my learning/ your work.
- This is new material for me. I haven’t been doing couples therapy for quite a while. I use to do it regularly. The material is very interesting. Never heard it before but I had difficulty following some of it. It would have been great to see a video of this in action. Perhaps 2 hours is not enough for this material. It certainly peaked my interest!
- Very useful and informative presentation. I can apply my learning to a couple I’ve been working with, so I’m very excited about that!
- Such a great presentation, I could see and feel the time and effort that was put into the topic.
- One of the best workshops I have ever gone to – 40 years in practice. Re affirmed and added to my knowledge and approach. Applies to my work and my marriage (me HSP he ADHD. ) I wish fervently therapists had presented this to us when we first got together. This needs to be taught everywhere. Too much misunderstanding, failed couples counseling, shame without it.
- One of the best presentations ever!
- Very engaging presentation and very practical information that can benefit many/most therapists no matter how often they work with neurodiverse couples or neurodivergent individuals.
- This was a wonderful presentation. I could have listened to her speak for way more time! I really appreciate how she stood out compared to other presentors – not only giving us the psychoeducational piece, but also how we can treat in real time.
- This presentation was incredibly helpful to be able to acknowledge both the EFT cycle with attachment injuries and the neurological layer! It helped me get unstuck about a neurodiverse couple who has been presenting with different areas of time depth perception and RSD.
Grazel Garcia
About Your Trainer
I’m Grazel Garcia, LMFT — founder and clinical director of Grayslate Therapy in Los Angeles and author of Crossed Signals: Healing the ADHD and Attachment Cycle Through EFT. I hold EFCT, EFIT, and EFFT certifications through ICEEFT and ICEEFT Certified EFCT Supervisor. I’ve spent years working at the intersection of ADHD and attachment in my clinical practice, and I developed the Crossed Signals framework to bridge the gap between what the ADHD literature and the attachment literature each miss about the other.
I also bring personal experience in a neurodiverse relationship to this work — which means I understand the patterns I teach from more than one angle.
Explore The Crossed Signals Framework
The Crossed Signals Book
For couples and clinicians who want to understand the ADHD-attachment cycle.
Couples Intensives
For couples who need focused clinical support.
Retreats & Workshops
For couples looking for a group learning experience.
Let’s talk
Bring this training to your practice or organization
If you’re interested in hosting a Crossed Signals training, booking me for a conference presentation, or joining a consultation group, let’s talk about what would be the best fit.