AUTHOR • SPEAKER • CLINICIAN
Grazel Garcia
Rewriting the narrative on ADHD, attachment, and the conversations that make or break our closest relationships.
The Work
The couples who fight the hardest are usually the ones who love the deepest. They just lost the language for it. She’s here to give it back.
ABOUT
Clinician.
Researcher.
Provocateur.
Grazel Garcia is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the founder of Grayslate, a group practice in Los Angeles that lives at the intersection of neurodivergence and relational therapy.
She holds every major EFT certification, including EFCT, EFIT, and EFFT, and is an EFT Supervisor Candidate through ICEEFT. She’s spent years in rooms where couples who love each other can’t stop hurting each other, and she got tired of watching the field ignore what was happening.
So she wrote the book.
“I got tired of watching brilliant clinicians miss what was right in front of them.”
GRAZEL GARCIA
THE BOOK
Crossed Signals
Why ADHD Turns Ordinary Conversations Into Fights and How to Finally Feel Close Again
The first book to fuse Emotionally Focused Therapy with ADHD-informed couple work. Built from hundreds of clinical hours, grounded in attachment science, and written for the couples who were told to “just communicate better” one too many times.
Release
June 2026
Foreword
Silvina Irwin
Format
Independent
Speaking
Keynotes, CE workshops, and clinical trainings for people who want to get this right.
01
Crossed Signals
How ADHD traits shape attachment bonds in couples — and what EFT clinicians need to know to intervene effectively.
02
Neurodivergence & EFT
Adapting Emotionally Focused Therapy for neurodiverse couples without losing the model’s core attachment framework.
03
Hold Me Tight Retreats
Intensive couples experiences built on Sue Johnson’s Hold Me Tight — including destination retreats in Puerto Vallarta.
Stay close
The work doesn’t stop at the book.
Research-backed insights on ADHD, attachment, and the moments between partners that actually matter. No filler.