Crossed Signals Program
The Crossed Signals
Couples’ Intensive Program™
When weekly therapy isn’t enough — and your relationship can’t wait.
A structured, multi-day couples intensive for ADHD and neurodiverse relationships, grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Crossed Signals framework.
The problem
You’ve Been Trying. It’s Still Not Working.
Maybe you’ve done couples therapy before. Maybe it helped for a while. But something keeps pulling you back into the same fight, the same silence, the same feeling of being completely alone in a room with the person you love most.
If ADHD is part of your relationship — whether it’s diagnosed, newly discovered, or something you’re just beginning to suspect — you already know that the usual advice doesn’t quite fit. “Just communicate better” doesn’t account for the fact that your brains are literally processing emotional information differently. Dividing up chores more fairly doesn’t touch the ache underneath.
The Crossed Signals Couples’ Intensive Program™ was built for couples like you.
This is not weekly therapy squeezed into a longer session.
What Makes This Intensive Different
This is not a condensed version of weekly therapy. It’s a structured, multi-day program grounded in the clinical framework from Crossed Signals focused on Healing the ADHD and Attachment Cycle Through EFT — the same model I use in my own practice and teach to other clinicians.
Most couples’ intensives are designed for general relationship distress. This one is designed specifically for the patterns that show up when ADHD and attachment collide — the pursuit-withdrawal cycles, the shame spirals, the emotional flooding, the shutdowns that look like indifference but are actually neurological overwhelm.
Here’s what that looks like in practice:
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We identify your cycle — the real one.
Not just “you pursue, I withdraw.” We map the specific ways ADHD neurobiology accelerates your attachment cycle — the rejected bids that trigger RSD, the executive function breakdowns that look like not caring, the emotional dysregulation that floods the room before either of you can think clearly.
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We slow everything down.
ADHD brains move fast. Attachment injuries hit deep. The intensive format gives us the time and space to actually stay with what’s happening between you, instead of running out of time right when things are starting to open up.
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We work with both partners’ experience.
The ADHD partner’s shame. The non-ADHD partner’s loneliness. The grief on both sides. This is not about assigning blame or identifying the “problem partner.” It’s about helping both of you see how the cycle traps you and finding the moments of vulnerability that can interrupt these cycles.
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We build new interactions — not just new insight.
You won’t just leave understanding your pattern. You’ll leave having practiced new ways of reaching for each other, informed by how your specific brains and hearts work together.
Is this intensive right for us?
The Crossed Signals Couples’ Intensive Program™ is designed for couples where ADHD is a factor in the relationship dynamic — whether in one partner or both.
This intensive is not appropriate for relationships involving active domestic violence, active untreated substance abuse, or situations where one partner has already made a firm decision to leave.
It’s a good fit if:
- You’ve tried couples therapy but keep hitting the same wall
- You’re stuck in a cycle of criticism, defensiveness, or emotional shutdown
- One or both of you were recently diagnosed and you’re trying to make sense of how ADHD has shaped your relationship
- You’re not in crisis, but you can feel the distance growing and you want to address it before it becomes something harder to repair
- You’re considering separation but want to give the relationship one real, informed effort
- You live outside of Los Angeles and need something more concentrated than weekly sessions
ABOUT the intensives
What to Expect
The Crossed Signals Couples’ Intensive Program™ is led by me directly — this is not handed off to an associate. We’ll work together over multiple days in a private, focused setting.
Before we meet, you’ll each complete a detailed intake that helps me understand your relationship history, your ADHD experience, and where things feel most stuck.
During the intensive, we’ll move through a structured process that includes:
- Assessment of your attachment cycle and how ADHD-specific patterns are fueling it
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) sessions adapted for neurodiverse couples
- Psychoeducation about how ADHD neurobiology interacts with attachment needs
- Guided conversations that help you practice reaching for each other differently
- A personalized plan for continuing the work after the intensive ends
After the intensive, you’ll have follow-up sessions to reinforce what you built and troubleshoot what comes up as you bring these changes into daily life.
Private. Focused.
Led directly by Grazel.
Grazel Garcia
About Your Therapist
I’m Grazel Garcia, LMFT — founder and clinical director of Grayslate Therapy in Los Angeles and author of Crossed Signals: Healing the ADHD and Attachment Cycle Through EFT. I hold certifications in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), and Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) through ICEEFT, and I’m currently an ICEEFT Supervisor certification.
I developed the Crossed Signals framework from years of clinical work with neurodiverse couples and from my own personal experience in a neurodiverse relationship. This work is not theoretical for me.
Explore The Crossed Signals Framework
The Crossed Signals Book
For couples and clinicians who want to understand the ADHD-attachment cycle.
Therapist Trainings
For clinicians working with neurodiverse couples in sessions.
Retreats & Workshops
For couples looking for a group learning experience.
Let’s talk
Ready to talk about whether this is right for you?
The first step is a consultation call. We’ll talk about what’s going on in your relationship, whether the intensive format makes sense for you, and what the process looks like from here.