About Grazel
For seven years, my own relationship was the one I couldn’t fix.
When Love Feels Lost in Translation
My partner and I loved each other. We tried — really tried. We sat in the offices of gifted EFT clinicians and did everything the work asked of us, and we left each session sure that this time something would click. It never did. She has ADHD, and we knew that. What none of us could see was how her ADHD was intensifying the very attachment fears we were there to heal.
What looked like withdrawal was executive-function overwhelm. What felt like not caring was a brain that holds time and attention differently than mine. The training to see that layer didn’t exist yet. When we finally understood it, everything changed — and we haven’t returned to that old cycle since. I wrote Crossed Signals so other couples wouldn’t have to spend seven years lost the way we did.
The Clinical Work Behind the Book
Clinician. Researcher. Author.
Grazel Garcia, LMFT, is an ICEEFT Certified Therapist and Supervisor in Emotionally Focused Therapy and the founder and clinical director of Grayslate, a Los Angeles practice specializing in couples and attachment. A bilingual Filipino-American who studied law before earning her Master of Science in Counseling from California State University, Northridge, she began her clinical career at the Los Angeles LGBT Center, working with high-acuity clients navigating houselessness, addiction, HIV, severe mental illness, and intimate partner violence.
Over more than fifteen years, she has worked with couples across neurotypes — among them entertainment professionals, public figures, athletes, medical professionals, and executives. She holds certifications in EFT for couples, individuals, and families; trains clinicians in neurodiversity-affirming EFT; leads couples retreats; and serves on the EFT Centre of Los Angeles training team and steering committee.
She wrote Crossed Signals because she believes no couple should suffer longer than they have to. Sitting across from couples caught in the same loop — one partner carrying everything, the other never feeling like enough — she kept seeing what almost no one was naming: ADHD was shaping the attachment bond, and neither the couples nor their therapists knew it. What she saw had a name, a pattern, and a way through. So she put it on the page.
At a Glance
Credentials
- Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT #97561)
- ICEEFT Certified EFT Therapist & Supervisor
- Certified in EFCT (couples), EFIT (individuals), and EFFT (families)
- Founder & Clinical Director, Grayslate
- EFT Centre of Los Angeles — training team & steering committee
- 15+ years specializing in neurodiverse couples and attachment
Off the Clock
The human behind the work
Grazel lives in the Los Angeles area with her partner and three pets — Rocco, Metta, and Whiskey. When she’s not in the therapy room, you’ll find her on the tennis court, at the pool table competing in her APA league, with family, or somewhere with good music on.
Crossed Signals is her first book. It is not her last.