Crossed Signals Program
The Crossed Signals
Couples’ Intensive Program™
When weekly therapy isn’t enough — and your relationship can’t wait.
A structured, multi-day couples intensive for ADHD and neurodiverse relationships, grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Crossed Signals framework.
The problem
You’ve Been Trying. It’s Still Not Working.
Maybe you’ve done couples therapy before. Maybe it helped for a while. But something keeps pulling you back into the same fight, the same silence, the same feeling of being completely alone in a room with the person you love most.
If ADHD is part of your relationship — whether it’s diagnosed, newly discovered, or something you’re just beginning to suspect — you already know that the usual advice doesn’t quite fit. “Just communicate better” doesn’t account for the fact that your brains are literally processing emotional information differently. Dividing up chores more fairly doesn’t touch the ache underneath.
The Crossed Signals Couples’ Intensive Program™ was built for couples like you.
This is not weekly therapy squeezed into a longer session.
What Makes This Intensive Different
This is not a condensed version of weekly therapy. It’s a structured, multi-day program grounded in the clinical framework from Crossed Signals focused on Healing the ADHD and Attachment Cycle Through EFT — the same model I use in my own practice and teach to other clinicians.
Most couples’ intensives are designed for general relationship distress. This one is designed specifically for the patterns that show up when ADHD and attachment collide — the pursuit-withdrawal cycles, the shame spirals, the emotional flooding, the shutdowns that look like indifference but are actually neurological overwhelm.
Here’s what that looks like in practice:
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We identify your cycle — the real one.
Not just “you pursue, I withdraw.” We map the specific ways ADHD neurobiology accelerates your attachment cycle — the rejected bids that trigger RSD, the executive function breakdowns that look like not caring, the emotional dysregulation that floods the room before either of you can think clearly.
02
We slow everything down.
ADHD brains move fast. Attachment injuries hit deep. The intensive format gives us the time and space to actually stay with what’s happening between you, instead of running out of time right when things are starting to open up.
03
We work with both partners’ experience.
The ADHD partner’s shame. The non-ADHD partner’s loneliness. The grief on both sides. This is not about assigning blame or identifying the “problem partner.” It’s about helping both of you see how the cycle traps you and finding the moments of vulnerability that can interrupt these cycles.
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We build new interactions — not just new insight.
You won’t just leave understanding your pattern. You’ll leave having practiced new ways of reaching for each other, informed by how your specific brains and hearts work together.
Is this intensive right for us?
The Crossed Signals Couples’ Intensive Program™ is designed for couples where ADHD is a factor in the relationship dynamic — whether in one partner or both.
This intensive is not appropriate for relationships involving active domestic violence, active untreated substance abuse, or situations where one partner has already made a firm decision to leave.
It’s a good fit if:
- You’ve tried couples therapy but keep hitting the same wall
- You’re stuck in a cycle of criticism, defensiveness, or emotional shutdown
- One or both of you were recently diagnosed and you’re trying to make sense of how ADHD has shaped your relationship
- You’re not in crisis, but you can feel the distance growing and you want to address it before it becomes something harder to repair
- You live outside of Los Angeles and need something more concentrated than weekly sessions
Concierge & Private Care
When your schedule — or your privacy — won’t bend
Weekly therapy isn’t realistic for everyone. If you’re filming on location, mid-season, on tour, or living a life where a standing weekly appointment simply can’t hold, the intensive was built for you.
Grazel works discreetly with entertainment professionals, public figures, and professional athletes who need the work to come to them — on their timeline, and with their privacy protected.
Prefer to keep it private? Reach Grazel directly at grazel@grazelgarciatherapy.com. Discreet inquiries and referrals are always welcome.
- Scheduling built around production, travel, and competition calendars
- Sessions where you are — a private resort, or the comfort of your own home
- Discretion and confidentiality at the level high-profile clients require
- Meaningful progress in days, not months of weekly visits
ABOUT the intensives
What to Expect
The Crossed Signals Couples’ Intensive Program™ is led by me directly — this is not handed off to an associate. We’ll work together over multiple days in a private, focused setting.
Before we meet, you’ll each complete a detailed intake that helps me understand your relationship history, your ADHD experience, and where things feel most stuck.
During the intensive, we’ll move through a structured process that includes:
- Assessment of your attachment cycle and how ADHD-specific patterns are fueling it
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) sessions adapted for neurodiverse couples
- Psychoeducation about how ADHD neurobiology interacts with attachment needs
- Guided conversations that help you practice reaching for each other differently
- A personalized plan for continuing the work after the intensive ends
After the intensive, you’ll have follow-up sessions to reinforce what you built and troubleshoot what comes up as you bring these changes into daily life.
Private. Focused.
Led directly by Grazel.
Explore The Crossed Signals Framework
The Crossed Signals Book
For couples and clinicians who want to understand the ADHD-attachment cycle.
Therapist Trainings
For clinicians working with neurodiverse couples in sessions.
Retreats & Workshops
For couples looking for a group learning experience.
Before Your Intensive
Come having read the framework
Couples get the most from their three days when they arrive already familiar with the Crossed Signals framework. Reading the book first is the best way to prepare — so our time together can go straight to the deep work.
Let’s talk
Ready to talk about whether this is right for you?
The first step is a consultation call. We’ll talk about what’s going on in your relationship, whether the intensive format makes sense for you, and what the process looks like from here.